My Grandmother Has the Keys: An Ode to A Mississippi Woman

I’ve recently started reaching out more frequently to my grandmother on my father’s side. For the longest time, and because we’re so far from each other, I would reach out occasionally, but not enough to actually build on our relationship. I became preoccupied with my own hustle. Since talking to her though, I’ve realized that…

1 Way To Treat Myself Right

Consume with care and consideration. The effects of self-neglect are longer term than they seem and take so much to reverse. Loving myself is more than affirmations, it’s actions, and one of the things I do every day at almost every moment is consume. It’s taking practice to be aware of what I’m consuming, but…

I’m Sexually Liberated, So Should I Be A Webcam Model?

My sexual side is something I had long denied and it hurt me to do so. I’ve had sexual feelings toward myself and others for a long time. I mean… it’s natural, but for awhile it seemed taboo. Dirty. The stigmas on sexuality were taught to me and affected the way that I maneuvered. My…

What I’m Learning From Being Non-Monogamous Pt.1: Intro

“We are creating the blueprint.” This is what one of my partners said to me yesterday after I finally found the words to let him in on the way I had been feeling all day. The awareness that I was currently involved, and diving deeper into, a form of relationship I had never experienced before…

What Gives You Life? For Me, It’s Dance

We all have something that brings us life. For me, that is dance. Specifically Afro-cultural dance. I began dancing about 3 years ago when my cultural anthropology professor invited me to a “drum circle”. I had been to one before at Venice beach and expected the same high and wild movements to the slightly askew…

What Does Success Mean To You?

The idea of success is relative and ever-changing. What I wanted 2 years ago is different than what i’m striving towards now. Some goals overlap, but what I previously defined as success is not the same for me today. I’ve learned more about myself and about life over time, i’ve experienced things that I hadn’t…

Breaking My Fast With An Avocado Smoothie Bowl

But not before drinking a ridiculous amount of water. I drank at least 32 oz. last night and at least 32 oz. this morning before eating anything so that my body would slowly bring itself back to life. That’s also why i’m reintroducing food with a smoothie bowl. I don’t want to shock my body…