Abstrkt Femme

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One-Sided Relationships Need To Be Stopped!

Last night I found myself experiencing a large realization about some of my closest relationships growing up… I had been used. Thinking back as I was talking to my mom on the phone, I realized that I have a pattern of being an over-giver. I give and give and give to my friends so much without outright asking for anything back, but the problem with that is that I find myself getting nothing back and then feel betrayed. This is something that I’m just now being able to change, but the question is, how can I find another way to show people that I care about them without giving away all of me?

Behind every habit is a larger, subconscious comfort zone. I want to show love by giving and giving, and I want to be shown love the same way. But you can’t control anyone else, their response, or the ways that they show you they care. All you can control in the situation is yourself. And so even though my friends had started to expect me to give to them without giving the same in return, it’s on ME to decide how much is too much.

This has been happening for such a long time!!! I’m ready to build healthier relationships that SHOW equal love!

Making my way out of my feelings and into new habits,



Katherine Elizabeth Jackson, aka Abstrkt, is a Long Beach to Oakland to Atlanta-based writer, creator and manager of the lifestyle and adventure website, Abstrkt Femme. When she is not creating content for her website she is performing as a Afro-cultural dancer, working in the holistic health field as a Reiki Master practitioner, or documenting her life experiences through photography and writing. She uses her experiences as a multifaceted artist and healer to view the lessons of life from many angles, which she then shares on Abstrkt Femme and in her book, Alive In Everything.

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