Abstrkt Femme

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What I Can Learn From My Exes Now That I Don’t Hate Them

Lately i’ve been reminiscent of past romantic relationships. As I continue to live, love and grow sometimes I can’t help but to remember the pieces of my life that once were as important to me as this moment is. Thinking on the relationships i’ve been in now… I can appreciate the times when the person I was dating seemed like the best person I had ever encountered. Face time with them made me feel full. The sex was always emotionally intimate and passionate, sometimes bringing tears to both of us. I was excited just thinking of them as my boo.

I would fall head over heels for these people, immediately crushing and sending all kinds of “need me” vibes their way. Many of my relationships were fiery from start to end, and involved months of attempting to make it work again after we had ended it. It can be hard to create a new vision without something after tying that thing so tightly into your idea of the future. Especially when not long before the break up you were with them with the same feelings of love and want.

I can look back on these relationships now and take what I need from them. They all had/have something to teach me. Something to contribute to the way I love moving forward. From the moment we had met to the way we argued to the way we transitioned the relationship, each piece is key in seeing what I can improve on, in seeing the people and traits that I’ve been attracted to, and in seeing what it was that made those relationships so passionate. I might not want to keep the wack communication skills, but I definitely want to keep the passion.

I appreciate my exes and also fuck them.

With love, Abstrkt


Katherine Elizabeth Jackson, aka Abstrkt, is a Long Beach to Oakland to Atlanta-based writer, creator and manager of the lifestyle and adventure website, Abstrkt Femme. When she is not creating content for her website she is performing as a Afro-cultural dancer, working in the holistic health field as a Reiki Master practitioner, or documenting her life experiences through photography and writing. She uses her experiences as a multifaceted artist and healer to view the lessons of life from many angles, which she then shares on Abstrkt Femme and in her book, Alive In Everything.

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