Something that is sometimes looked at as selfish or inconsiderate is the act of receiving. This can make it hard to ask for what you deserve. In America, we are told to GIVE more than we are told to take, and receiving from others can often be discouraged. Giving your time and energy can be a beautiful thing, but without the reciprocity you can soon find yourself drained and irritable. You can even suffer long-term emotional trauma.
I’m a giver. I have an open heart, motherly vibes, I’m a healer, a vessel and I enjoy being a source of light and love in the world. I also take in a lot of information daily (from experience, classes/workshops, advice, spirit), and I always find a way to pass it on. But here is something I keep in mind:
“Not everyone sees the world the way you do.”
And while this is super dope and allows us to share in each others unique beauty, if I’m constantly giving others my heart and attention with the expectation that
“Because I’m doing this, others will do the same for me”,
not only will I quickly drain myself, I will be hurt or upset if my expectations are not met. It can become a distraction from truly getting in touch with my wants, needs, myself and my life. If I take time to breathe, give to myself and get to know myself, I create a more solid foundation of love, acceptance and care within. I can continue to give without expectation, and allow others to give back to their hearts desire.
Self-care is a very important aspect of my life. It is a practice of re-charging and when I care for my body on my time, on my terms, I’m able to continue my work as a healer, organizer and artist in a sustainable way. Life can be very exhausting as an empath; I’m constantly soaking up every feeling from everywhere and carrying it as my own. If I don’t take moments to sit with self, I’m not able to do my work 100%.
Some Great Ways I Care For Myself
- A warm shower, ocean sounds, and diffusing Lavender Essential Oil. This allows you to put aside your ego and physical form; To listen to your thoughts and feelings without judgement and let them fade out like the waves of the ocean…
- Sitting. AKA sitting meditation. There are many ways to do this, so explore to find what works best for you. Some options are candle gazing (focusing on the flame of a candle to clear the mind), focusing on the breath (eyes closed, focus on deep breaths entering and leaving the body), envisioning and guided meditation (focusing on manifesting something into your life or envisioning yourself in a scene). For sitting, I recommend buying a Meditation Cushion so your bum doesn’t get sore.
- Grooming Myself w/ Love. I really enjoy taking a full day to groom myself. Shaving, long showers or baths with herbal infusions (Lavender, Rose), putting on facial masks, lathering myself in sweet almond or coconut oil and letting it sit, meditating in the sun or reading a book.
- Breath of Fire. This is an active meditation. It helps emotionally, mentally, sexually, physically and spiritually detoxify the body and builds creative energy. Not recommended for women on their cycle. To Do: Sit cross-legged on a stable surface with your hands palms-up on your knees. Close your eyes and focus on your third-eye point, which is in between the eyebrows. Take a deep inhale and start to take rapid in-and-out breaths through your nose, like the panting of a dog. Contract and release your stomach muscles in rhythm with your breath. For extra release, clench genital muscles as you do this. Do for 3, 7, or 11 minutes.
- Mindfulness. Just being very present in your body as you accomplish each task, like eating and drinking. This will help you enjoy every moment to its fullest.
- Reiki. As a Reiki practitioner, I have the amazing opportunity to perform a healing session on myself at any time. I like to imagine the energy flowing through me as I’m going to sleep, or when the sun’s light shines on me in the morning. Sessions on others also boost me; whenever you perform a session, you also receive the love. If you are not a practitioner and are looking to receive a session or learn more, visit the Reiki & Holistic Realignment page of my website or feel free to contact me. I would love to share it with you.
Being open to receiving unconditionally is a practice of love for self and others.
YOU ARE WORTH IT.
Natural Face Mask: Charcoal, Honey and Coconut Oil
What You Need
anti-inflammatory, heals acne, reduces redness and eczema, clears bacteria
draws out dirt and bacteria, disinfect, soaks up toxins
moisturizer, anti-bacterial, skin repair, treats eczema and psoriasis, and more, coconut oil is great
Super simple, just mix together and coat your face with a thick layer of the mixture. Keep on as long as you like, then gently use your fingertips to wash off with circular motions until mask is completely removed. Warning: Charcoal is messy.
Peace and Love,
Katherine Elizabeth Jackson