Abstrkt Femme

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9 of Cups (Reversed); The Lovers: On Romantic Relationships As A Young Woman

I’m finding now that what makes me most at ease in a relationship with someone(s) is when free people who love each other, love each other as a way to express their liberation.


Today I fell in love with the world again. I haven’t felt that feeling since the last time I pledged to take a hiatus from romantic partnerships. The decision led me to a mind state of self-acceptance and forgiveness of self and others for being human. I was/am no longer holding others accountable for the cranes in the sky (thank you Solange). Two words remind me to include all in my love:


As I start to come back into myself as a “single person” again (aka, me.), I have to agree that I knew the risk. Just as I know the risk in exploring the shadows of my soul, I know the risk in exploring the shadows of someone else’s…




On Dating Men vs. Women (My Own Experiences)

Men interest me. I observe them, especially if we are romantically involved. There is something about men that I understand in my core/don’t fucking get at all.

As a woman, when I am romantically involved with a woman, I see her as a direct reflection of myself. I understand quickly why she is the person that she is and our relationship becomes like a sisterhood. There is more of a friendship and the romance is a bonus.

With men, I find myself taking the place of their mother as well as their lover and confidant. I’m the person they trust with their vulnerability, I’m the one they explore themselves through and the one to offer unconditional love, acceptance and overall HELP. On my side I ask for the same acceptance, unconditional love and trustworthiness, and an even exchange of energy. Most of the men I have dated have needed more unconditional love from themselves than from me.


Only self can give self what it needs.

The partnership is when we all have what we need and abundance and share in that together.




Some key things I’m finding from connecting yourself to someone else’s path in a very deliberate and conscientious way are:

That ultimately, the fate of the type of relationship you have with someone(s) is already written by the god-source of everyone involved. There is no blame for the relationship evolving into something unplanned (doesn’t mean you can’t complain about being fucked with or mistreatment); There is no real fault. There is always something to be learned and bless up for each day being new.

Mental Note: Manhood. Womanhood. The terms can be taken so many ways. But their true meaning talks about the 3 forces in every Earth-life: the birth, the fruit and the understanding. And without the understanding we might not have been able to grow to a point where we can discuss manhood and womanhood.

Peace and Love,

Katherine Elizabeth Jackson


Katherine Elizabeth Jackson, aka Abstrkt, is a Long Beach to Oakland to Atlanta-based writer, creator and manager of the lifestyle and adventure website, Abstrkt Femme. When she is not creating content for her website she is performing as a Afro-cultural dancer, working in the holistic health field as a Reiki Master practitioner, or documenting her life experiences through photography and writing. She uses her experiences as a multifaceted artist and healer to view the lessons of life from many angles, which she then shares on Abstrkt Femme and in her book, Alive In Everything.

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